SHADES OF DECEIT III

Shades Of Deceit
Shades Of Deceit

Hello Peeps, this is your weekly report from the Team at AideYarn and trust me, there’s a lot to report this week.

First on the beat which is pretty big, is to let you know that you can now catch up with your favourite Shades Of Deceit characters on radio, as the serial goes live on air on Smooth 98.1FM with the one and only Princess of Radio, “The Midnight Mistress”, Olajumoke Bello (@OlajumokeBello) on her show, Tales @ Nighttime, which comes up 10pm  every weekday (exclusive of Fridays). The Premiere is slated for  Monday, the 29th of September, 2014 and Shades Of Deceit II is slated for Wednesday of the same week. Trust me, if there’s anyone who can deliver the A! experience on radio, I  guarantee that the “The Midnight Mistress” is that person. Lets keep the support going guys and do tune in and hook up with the Princess of Radio as she blows your mind away with the radio version of Shades Of Deceit.

Next on the beat is to let you know that Shades Of Deceit is still doing very …very well with the ratings as we come off another record shattering week. The record for the ‘Most Comments On A Post’ has been broken for a consecutive week and this is sending out a big shout out to everyone who did not just ghost in (we love you guys too but…*winks*) but took out of your busy schedule to pen down your thoughts in the comments section. We owe the success of the A! experience to your feed-backs -Thank you!

Our special mentions for this week goes to Raphael (A first time commenter last week who’s been consistently re-posting our links), Desiblaque (She burnt the comments section with her colourful feed-backs), Larry (He’s been sniping at us consistently  with his feed-backs) and to everyone that re-posted the links on BBM and Whatsapp, shared on Facebook and re-tweeted on Twitter.

Like we would always say, lets keep those comments rolling in as it helps us improve your experience on the blog and please do enjoy our feature presentation for the day – Shades Of Deceit III .

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In the previous episode of Shades of Deceit

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‘Have you been having trouble sleeping?’ The doctor asked, lifting his face up from his writing.

Laide thought briefly about Sunday’s incident with the flashing phone light but decided that didn’t apply to the question. ‘No,’ she heard herself say, ‘is there a problem doctor?’

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‘How are you dearie?’

I’m great, his wife responded from the other end. He could feel the joy in her voice, even though it sounded sleepy.

‘Did I wake you up?’

‘No… you know I will not sleep without hearing from my sweetheart,’ she said, her voice teasing and sweet.

‘I know,’ Michael said, smiling sheepishly to himself. ‘Can’t wait to be with you tomorrow,’…

 

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I’m coming over.

You can’t, he quickly replied, his heartbeat picking up pace. This is a hotel!

You better leave your door open, so I don’t have to knock when I get there. You don’t want us waking up the other guests. I’m on my way.

Michael dashed to the door to open it up…
He rubbed his palms against each other, as his eyes stayed glued to the entrance of the door. He waited with bated breath as he allowed his heartbeat do a countdown to the arrival of trouble.

Thudum…Thudum…Thudum…Thudum…

 

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//The. Man. In. The. Man. Of. God//

 

 

THURSDAY, SEPTEMBER 11th, 2014.

Gwarimpa Estate, Abuja.

10:40AM

Laide took her husbands’ luggage from him as he stepped into the sitting room leading the way to their bedroom.

It didn’t escape her that his eyes shifted away from hers, preferring instead to draw her to himself in a warm hug. She sensed something was wrong, but she couldn’t lay a finger on it.

Maybe it was her mind playing tricks on her, she thought to herself as she watched him take off his jacket, but why would he cut her call and switch off his phone, if there was nothing to hide? She asked herself, her lips mute but her eyes travelling, searching for signs on her husband that didn’t exist. The man was clean.

‘You will take a shower before your meal I guess?’ Laide asked, placing the luggage at the foot of the bed.

‘Sure,’ Michael replied as he unbuttoned his shirt. His eyes still very shifty, avoiding the gaze of his wife. He had an already scripted answer in his head but the question had not been asked. This was a delicate game of timing. Answer before the question is asked -you’re pronounced guilty. Don’t answer rightly when the question is asked -you’re also pronounced guilty. He just had to wait for the right time to spew forth the words he had already constructed in his head. With those thoughts running around in his mind, he made for the bathroom.

Laide watched his retreating figure as he disappeared into the bathroom. Her fingers reaching out for his phone immediately her ears picked out the sound of running water. She knew he would not be in the bathroom for more than five minutes, so there was no time to waste.

Her eyes narrowed on the calls log as she confirmed her number on his list, My Good Thing…03/09…22:20, she pushed the touch pad to the blackberry messenger, her fingers working feverishly on the device.

She found her subject and tapped on the touch pad to open up the chat history. Her salivary glands stopped functioning, leaving her mouth dry and her eyes all popped out as she stared at the nude pictures on the screen of the phone.

She shook her head, trying to get Ivie’s nude images off her vision as she searched for Priye’s ID on her husband’s phone. It seemed like a perfect case of Deja vu as she tapped on the touch pad to open up the chat history.

This chat has no subject. You can add it anytime using the menu…

She looked at the phone suspiciously, her face wrinkled in worry. Something was wrong.

How could Priye’s chat history be blank when just last week, it had some innocent church conversations?

Yes, her curiosity had led her to check her husband’s phone, particularly Priye’s conversations knowing that she would be in the company travelling to the conference. It had gladdened her then to see that they had only sparse discussions between them, the last one dating back to January, and prior to the church’s praise night. It was the singular reason she had not pressed for the inclusion of her loyal spy -Nike in the entourage.

‘But Nike would not have been able to stop them from chatting,’ she muttered to herself, Atleast she was sure nothing physical happened between them, seeing that Pastor Tony was part of the trip. There was no way they could have done anything unseemly with him hanging not too far off, she thought within herself, desperately trying to console herself.

‘If nothing happened physically, how could she be so sure nothing happened via chatting?’ She asked under her breath, her thoughts running riot. It was the singular reason the blank chat history bothered her.

What could have been in the chats with Priye that would have made her husband go as far as deleting chat history -another set of nude pictures?

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Michael stood directly under the shower, letting the water massage his head as it ran down his body. It was supposed to have a soothing effect but the confusion inside of him neutralised any of such effects.

She was in his head.

We can’t do this now. Not with Pastor Tony somewhere in the hotel. What if he comes to my room? He asked, protesting as tamely as he could as she sat astride him.

‘O ye of little faith. You have not received a spirit of fear, but of love,’ her voice cooed sensuously in his ears. Her lips munching the tip of his left ear lobe, setting his body aflame with desire.

It’s of power and of love and of a sound mind. He corrected her.

‘You’re the Pastor,’ she said as her hands navigated the familiar territory of his chest, ‘I’m a singer, I think it’s time you do your job so I can sing,’ she said as she cupped her breasts with his hands.

That was the exact moment the song Olo mi by Tosin Martins serenaded the room, it was his special ringtone for his wife.

She cut the call and put the phone off, tossing it further away from them before lining his lips with a hot kiss.

He was entranced.

‘Do you know I can’t remember when I cut the call and put off my phone? I was so fast asleep,’ Michael muttered to himself, rehearsing his answer to his wife’s anticipated question. He turned off the shower, grabbed a towel from the rail and mopped his body. It was time to face the music and face it he must, he sighed as he stepped out of the bathroom.

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Gwarimpa, Abuja.

10:47AM

Nike glossed over the report on the table for the umpteenth time, she wanted to be sure there were no mistakes on the final edit copy of the report. She was that thorough.

Satisfied with the work, she rose up from her chair, picked up the report and made for the pastor’s office.

As she entered the office, she opened up the report and scanned through the pages again before placing it strategically in front of the chair on the desk. She wanted to make sure it would be the first thing he saw when he sat on his chair.

She was sure he had arrived Abuja from Lagos already, as she was the one who had booked a first flight for the trio who had gone for the conference. She however didn’t expect him in the office till it was about eleven thirty or twelve noon, as she knew he would first make a stop at home to see his wife before coming over to the office.

She let her fore finger drag on the Ciello executive desk, feeling the smooth finish of the exquisite furniture as she took a stroll around the office, her eyes surveying the room to make sure everything was in its proper place.

As her finger ran along the desk, memories of countless escapades on top of the desk flooded her mind but the memory of the first time, stood out from the others -it was a classic.

‘We can’t do this,’ she pleaded, as they took a break from their long kiss.

‘Why?’ he asked, his eyes fierce like that of a predator.

She thought of a reason why they couldn’t do it and all of a sudden there was none, after-all she wanted it too. ‘You’re a man of God,’ she said almost in a whisper. Cursing herself deep down for the words that just came out of her mouth and hoping that he didn’t hear them.

‘You’re right, I’m a man of God,’ He said, his hands still wrapped around her waist, eyes staring deep into hers. ‘But I’m first a man, before I’m of God and right now, the man in this man of God wants this beautiful lady,’ he whispered into her ears as he lifted her up from the ground, sitting her gently on the desk.

The session was classic.

Nike snapped out of her reverie as she heard the hello sound from her office. It sounded like the voice of Pastor Ben. She took one last glance around the room as she hurried out to attend to the voice.

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Gwarimpa Estate, Abuja.

10:50AM

Michael could feel his wife’s eyes on him as he buttoned his shirt. He knew the question was going to drop anytime soon. He had the answer ready, Do you know I can’t remember when I cut the call and put off my phone? I was so fast asleep.

‘Why is Priye’s chat history blank?’ Laide asked, her eyes fixed fiercely on her husbands’. She wanted to take in every bit of his body movement, to know whether to believe his words or not.

Michael was transfixed. That was the wrong question. His head was still searching for an appropriate answer when he heard his mouth speak, ‘what sort of a nonsense question is that?’

‘The kind that a wife would ask?’ Laide fired back, her eyes showing her anger.

Michael kept quiet as he brushed his hair, peeping into the mirror to catch a glimpse of himself. As he dropped the brush on the shelf, he could feel the scalding eyes of his wife burn through his back. ‘I can see your mind has started cooking things up again, I will ignore you,’ he said as he made for the door.

Laide got up quickly from the bed and intercepted her husband, her eyes demanding a different answer from the one her husband was currently offering. ‘Have you started fooling yourself with Priye just like you did with Ivie?’ Laide asked, her voice laced with contempt.

The response was fast. It was a lightning slap across her face as the force of the back of his left palm sizzled on her left cheek, sending her crashing to the ground.

‘Don’t you ever talk to me in that tone of voice in your life again,’ Michael barked as he grabbed the car keys from the hangar, the sound of her sobs trailing him as he stormed out of the bedroom, shutting the door with a bang.

 

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47 thoughts on “SHADES OF DECEIT III

  1. I didn't expect less. Great work Daniel. What I love about Dan is that his stories are presented in such a way that it looks very real. A lot of us can relate to it. I just learnt that no matter how grown and matured a man is. He always has demons to fight. How he fights it is up to him. And always remember your loved ones in every decision you make. I can imagine Ivie, Nike and Priye making snide remarks in their hearts. Again let me predict the story a little. Seems his wife had him through foul means. My warri people will say her way no pure. 😁

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  2. I thought the addiction was his only problem. Add the action at the end and we have a home that is hanging by a thread. I feel sorry for her. I can't empathize with him though. I actually don't like him anymore.

    Another good instalment. Well done. You have managed to turn up the heat yet again.

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  3. Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! *pause*.....*Dances shoki for like 2 minutes* say WHAT!! #SoD is gonna be on Smooooth!! Kill me NOW! *OKAY calm down Des* take a deep breath n be normal *shines teeth* Hehehe

    Awwww...but aint this the swidest news...REALLY EXCITED. Midnight Mistress shall KILLIT! (in a good way *winks*)
    Congrats at AiDeYarn and his glorious team, God is def taking you guys far far higher in Jesus Name ( Still watching out for TMA on the big screens).....and yeaa..@desiblaque's mention *iblush* *igrin* *iblushagain* hahaahhaha *short scream* *warm hug* Thanks at Aideyarn...I am humbled...this is the only way i can appreciate your work and express a little from the myriads of feelings, your writings propel. You Inspire Us 🙂

    Ahem and to the business of the day..... Who wants to know how i wake up on Saturday mornings especially after a long vigil night....Probably nobody..beht awee teh you...:p

    Slowly, ......I wake up slowly...... only to be sharply aroused like Ive been doused wit a bowl of ice cold water. This is what "Off the Record" Pages have been doing to most of my Saturdays! LIKE THE WTH.... Pastor Michael!!!!!!!! You cheated...she forgave you...you are currently cheating and if my feelings are right with not only one member..with two or more...she confronted you and u hit her...that slap tho..."It was a lightning slap across her face as the force of the back of his left palm sizzled on her left cheek, sending her crashing to the ground" heheheh what a description! where am from they calleet BACKHANDSLAP!
    But, Guy! you no try o..Pastor u no try at all..you need help! Seekit!
    @noksis ano blive say her way no pure o..u don forget last episode wey she been dey tink of the time wey dem no get anytg...God don bless dem nw yawa don dey enter..dts the problem with man! and woman too! We pray earnestly for Gods blessings, relentlessly and sometimes for decades too..when God finally blesses us..we start to misbehave..forgetting our humbler times...*sigh* God help us..fact is Devil is far clever than we sometimes imagine..I pray God gives us the grace to run this race well. Amen
    Lets see what Laide wee do sha..I get some suggestions for her if she no go mind.....

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    1. @Des this is officially the longest comment ever on the blog...looking at it...I don't know where to start to respond from..but I'll say u'r spot on about the Smooth FM gig we just pinned down...and u can be sure that Olajumoke Bello will make it worth every minute. Nobody should miss it.
      Thanks for dropping ur many thots...laffed at various pts while reading ur comment. Ur comments are always so very colourful...I guess we'll have a post soon titled 'Des Colourful Comments' *smiles* u.i.m

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    2. Thanks for the Shout Out King Dan. The comment box alone is longer than the story. lmao. need i say more? your one piece spurns & births more articles from the readers. We are the FANS. Yet you BLOW us away.

      *@Des must be a comedienne.

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  4. Chai! And am still trying to see the good part of Pastor Monkerel, lol, I don't know the man is a beast and a serial cheater and adulterer, who knows other criminal activities he's involved in, I won't be surprised if he's also using Jazz for the growth of d church, hmmm! Trust no one, Nike, Laide's spy is even one of his lovers, for that man to raise his hand and beat his pregnant wife made me hate him straightway, nothing good can come out of him, he's a pretender, wooooh! I thought he love his wife, hmmmmm! Seriously angry! Lol.

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    1. @beezy so many words at once shows ow angry you are...stop 'vexing' too much. Pastor Michael lost a lot of fans in this episode. First @Olajumoke and now you. I'm getting worried for the guy seriously.*smiles* thanks for dropping those thots

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  5. All that glitters is not gold!! At the begining of this series, the family was portrayed as a loving and 'on point' kind of family that people will envy and want to set as a role model. Tjjhe story is just beautifully unfolding. Welldone.

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    1. Shud we say its the return of @Ihunanya? Since we missed ur tots on II. Good observation...all that glitters aint gold. Every home has its issues and every man his demons just like @Noksis said. Thanks for stopping by. Appreciated.

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    1. yea I like her comments too..quite tot provoking..I had totally forgotten about the church scene in the first episode, where we all tot...Awww..how sweet .....what a lovely family....If only we knew den what Mr Dan was cooking....Mysteries Mysteries....*deep sigh* *fingers crossed*

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  6. Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay! *pause*…..*Dances shoki for like 2 minutes* say WHAT!! #SoD is gonna be on Smooooth!! Kill me NOW! *OKAY calm down Des* take a deep breath n be normal *shines teeth* Hehehe

    Awwww…but aint this the swidest news…REALLY EXCITED. Midnight Mistress shall KILLIT! (in a good way *winks*)
    Congrats at AiDeYarn and his glorious team, God is def taking you guys far far higher in Jesus Name ( Still watching out for TMA on the big screens)…..and yeaa..@desiblaque’s mention *iblush* *igrin* *iblushagain* hahaahhaha *short scream* *warm hug* Thanks at Aideyarn…I am humbled…this is the only way i can appreciate your work and express a little from the myriads of feelings, your writings propel. You Inspire Us 🙂

    Ahem and to the business of the day….. Who wants to know how i wake up on Saturday mornings especially after a long vigil night….Probably nobody..beht awee teh you…:p

    Slowly, ……I wake up slowly…… only to be sharply aroused like Ive been doused wit a bowl of ice cold water. This is what “Off the Record” Pages have been doing to most of my Saturdays! LIKE THE WTH…. Pastor Michael!!!!!!!! You cheated…she forgave you…you are currently cheating and if my feelings are right with not only one member..with two or more…she confronted you and u hit her…that slap tho…”It was a lightning slap across her face as the force of the back of his left palm sizzled on her left cheek, sending her crashing to the ground” heheheh what a description! where am from they calleet BACKHANDSLAP!
    But, Guy! you no try o..Pastor u no try at all..you need help! Seekit!
    @noksis ano blive say her way no pure o..u don forget last episode wey she been dey tink of the time wey dem no get anytg…God don bless dem nw yawa don dey enter..dts the problem with man! and woman too! We pray earnestly for Gods blessings, relentlessly and sometimes for decades too..when God finally blesses us..we start to misbehave..forgetting our humbler times…*sigh* God help us..fact is Devil is far clever than we sometimes imagine..I pray God gives us the grace to run this race well. Amen
    Lets see what Laide wee do sha..I get some suggestions for her if she no go mind…..

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  7. I can relate with an unfaithful spouse..(Not that its okay) something in me can still make excuse for cheating . But I find it difficult to relate with a woman-beater!!!! There is no excuse. Its barbaric! ...

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  8. Olulana kilode? this ur comment is powerful buh I agree with everything u wrote. am as excited as u are. Team Aideyarn! , well done.

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    1. @PJ from trying to be the first to comment have you settled for the twenty something spot? *laffing* okay...you know i'm just kidding right....its always nice to have your thots stated here...whether as the second comment or even the last comment...your feedback is important to us and it drives us to do better...u.i.m

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  9. Poor Laide! Smh! And to think she's pregnant (that alone comes with its issues). Everyday for the thief........ lol! I can't wait to see how these *thieves* will be dealt with. Brilliant work Daniel!

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    1. @aitasweet i smiled when you made mention of Laide's pregnancy ...like you said...that really does complicate a lot of issues right? thanks for dropping your thots ...its special to the Team.u.i.m

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  10. I like Daniels style of writing. It's engaging and allows ones mind to visualise with ease.

    Laide seems naive, she fails to still understand what kind of beast she's married too. I really wonder why she's such a learner

    Well like many before her, her fate is already sealed** She'd learn to live with her husbands philandering or she'd die of hypertension.

    Ah yes Pastor, he's quite a piece of work. He's a classic, albeit with some rough edges. It's funny how he's done a number on his wives spy. He however failed to keep his "innocence " by slapping his wife.

    Infidelity is a complex matter. And it's never as black and white as we sometimes imagine. I'd like to see how this series plays out and am sure there are lots of lessons to be learnt.

    My 2cents don't allow yourself to be placed in a position that leaves you powerless.

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    1. @adewale hmmmn ...dont allow yourself to be placed in a position that leaves you powerless....that should be framed right? iLike ...its a perfect way to close up your first comment on the page...you're welcome on board.u.i.m

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  11. Wonderful story... Thank God for vigilant wives! But seriously, what does it take to keep your man faithful to you?

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    1. @Ayomi ...that's a million dollar question for real ...@PJ thats a whole lot of venom you have there...you are seriously 'vexin'....to be objective though, I believe there are a lot of good men around too...lots of them...not all of them are dogs and strays...my opinion though...*smiles* thanks for the feedback...appreciated

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  12. First, congratulations Aideyarn and team for nabbing a radio gig!! Not familiar with the radio but its always a big deal to showcase one's work on air. I know bigger things will follow from here on! #Shineaway!

    Right back at the post, sorry I'm late by the way;: I don't get why a person (an adult) thinks/feels its OK to hit another. I think putting hands on one's spouse is the biggest disrespect ever! Worse than philandering, of which both weigh almost the same but violence is bigger in my book.
    The Pastor started off looking like a nice man but as his cheating escapades unravel, now he hits her and she's preggers. #prayersforhimandthem! I think he actually loves his wife but things will probably get uglier.
    Wanna see Laide's reaction, how she handles herself and the whole situation.

    In this sentence,: 'he walked off the shower, grabbed his towel and mopped his body'.....I have a problem with 'mopped' his body (lack of a better word??).
    In the sentence,: something about 'munching' lips.
    In lay terms, jovial terms I get the use of these words but for some reason I wasn't feeling them in the context in which those words were used here.

    However, it didn't take anything away from the story and how expertly you executed the telling and style!

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    1. @Zikora i get the part of the 'mopped' and 'munching'...and i understand the part of you not feeling the words...happens to me too...would appreciate if you can drop a different set of words as used in the context...would enlarge my resource i'm sure...i should however say that grammatically both words have been used in the right context and they follow the flow in which the sentence has been constructed from.

      its the reason why i love my 'Yarners', they all have great heads and their Yarning is tight...thanks for stopping by.

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      1. @Aideyarn.....yes, grammatically I did acknowledge that those words aren't wrong in my previous comment but I just wasn't feeling it.
        I did not try to suggest words to you because Mr Dan let's face it.....you are astute and very articulate so I was sure you will find the words that suit you better.

        You don't even have to change it or agree with me but that was me saying what I felt.

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  13. Forgot to mention, on this episode its revealed that he's actually cheated before. My big surprise is that Laide knew!! She's aware of what her husband is capable of yet she seemed naive and almost oblivious in the past episodes (take into consideration the believe-ality of your story). (Is 'believe-ality' a correct word?? Lol....don't mind me)

    You either applaud her for being nice, perhaps being able to look on the bright side of hope for her husband's redemption, or kick her in the head for being stupid?? Which one is Laide.

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    1. @Zikora...i think the coinage would be 'believability' .... eerm...if i get the point correctly...you want to know why Laide seemed naive and oblivious of her husband's cheating in the past episodes when in-fact she knew...i don't think she was oblivious...maybe the readers were because that is what they were allowed to see so as to create the 'big surprise' factor that you just conceded to in your comment.
      but why Laide would act naive is something I seriously cant answer cos I dont even know but I hope this serial would help shed light on it...cos'do you know from statistics as revealed in R. Barri Flowers book on Domestic crimes, family violence and child abuse...a total of 65% of women who suffer abuse in marriages were first abused in the spousal stage (courtship stage)....meaning abuse didnt change their mind from marrying the guy...65% is a clear majority...meaning Laide is a typical case for most women (not fiction...reality!...which makes the matter very believable)
      it only begs the question...why would a woman marry a man that abuses her?

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      1. 65% is an alarming rate, although I'm surprised its not more than that. You've answered the question here but it was really a rhetorical question.

        And your question: why would a woman marry a man that abuses her?? Some of these women claim its love....which is believable. You see sometimes, you meet your 'perfect' man or woman and you fall in love with the dream and what he represent. When the abuse begins you find the woman is usually still in love with 'the dream and what he represent' and would stay.

        In Laide's case for example; she may still be in love with her husband but she actually loath him at the same time. Note that all she cared about really was keeping up appearances and the image she and her husband represent in the church and in their small world. She never for once mentioned that its because she loves him.

        Another reason women stay is because they are ashamed, ashamed of themselves. They either think its their fault or simply ashamed to admit that she has such a marital problem, the feeling that they couldn't handle their home business. She doesn't want to be seen as weak because it will damage whatever social status she may have, it may even impact on her career, and other vicious ladies will such information to directly and indirectly come in and wreck more havoc.
        Think of a woman who is at the pinnacle of her career, respected etc she would never admit to such a problem! Men will look down on her and unfortunately, some fellow women aren't sympathetic of such plight.

        In Nigeria, the prevalent reason including the above reasons are because they want to be a 'Mrs' come what may, and come what may they want to stay and remain a 'mrs.' Everyone know all the various reasons why this is so therefore I will not go into that.

        The most endearing reason is that some of these women actually love the man. When you love someone you don't want bring their name to ridicule and judgment. You protect them and suffer in silence.

        Then, there are those women who stay in abusive relationship against their will because they've lost themselves and have no power or will to do anything. This type of abusive situation is kinda the most dangerous because the victim aren't conscientious. Their spouse controls them by gradually taking away their power and sense of autonomy over a long period of time. The man manipulate his spouse to be solely dependent on him alone. The victim will fight and loose contact with her family and friends, who in turn will alienate her. This works perfectly for the psychopathic bully because now he is her sole dependent. She will loose her sense of self and find it hard to rely on others, and if she attempts such there will be a price to pay from the psychopath. By now she's a bundle of paranoia, and whenever she realizes that her man is the bane of her misery she will live in fear of her life. Very pathetic.

        However, there is always hope, that light at the end of the tunnel........

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  14. Thanks for the Shout Out King
    Dan. The comment box alone
    is longer than the story. lmao.
    need i say more? your one
    piece spurns & births more
    articles from the readers. We
    are the FANS. Yet you BLOW us
    away.
    *@Des must be a comedienne.

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    1. @KingLarry-LarryKing you're always welcome on the page....and yes the A! experience is meant to blow you away (too much grammar) ...thanks for stopping by and i second your comment @Des ...she's a big comedienne

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